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Title: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 10, 2017, 01:35:02 AM
I'm going to share my story though I doubt it has much use to anyone but myself since it is a story older than NA itself. If you'd like to share some wisdom feel free.

12 years ago I was in a car wreck and started taking pain pills. Five years later I picked up 120 pills from the pharmacy and they were gone in 3 days and what scared me was I hadn't even realized I'd taken so many. Told my doctor, 'holy crap boss I think I'm an addict.'

He was a close family friend so I had no problem being honest with him and he prescribed me subutex but kept it for the pain. We struggled with the right dose for awhile but settled on 4 mg.

Next few years were great, found my future wife. Every 3 months I paid 25$ to the doc and 3 bucks per pill. He says I should just stick with this medicine for the time being and if I have to take it forever who cares? Lots of people have to take a pill everday.

Five years later my doctor tells me he's retiring and that only a few people can prescribe subutex and since I'm an addict no doc will touch me thanks to our screwed up system. I say screw it I'll just quit. I made it 3 months before I started getting suicidal. Psychiatrist tells me 'look you need this medicine just take it you'll be fine.'

He sees me on it and off of it, totally different people. One is a normal happy guy the other is a suicidally depressed guy in pain. So I start seeing a different doctor who charges a 100 a month. He's a good doctor who actually cares and I'd rather be honest and taking subutex than lying and taking other stuff or even dipping back into the hard stuff so I just start figuring a way around the bills every month.

Things are good for the next five or so years. No relapses, no asking for extra pills, no suicidal thoughts.

A few times I start thinking I can live without the pills so I try to quit. Same thing always happens after the physical withdrawals start diminishing the pain starts coming back in full force either back, jaw or god awful migraines. Within a couple months I'm bed ridden wishing for death, within a bit longer the suicidal urges kick in. I don't really get the urge to use so much as I get the urge to die. I digress.

I accept just taking the medication, a few years pass. 100 a month is tough but what options do I have? If I want a normal life I have to swing it.

Life is so good we find a good balance and at the age of 32 finally have my first child a wonderful beautiful daughter who I never thought I could love as much as I do. That was 2 months ago.

Now though thanks to some screwed up federal nonsense the UAs I used to take were only 5 dollars and I just got two bills for the last 2 UA's 1 was 100 dollars the other was 520! Mom's on maternity leave and our funds are crazy tight. By the way, delivering our baby cost 720 dollars with a 4 night stay. Why the heck are my UA's almost as much?

Seems like every time I find a good balance something comes along and screws everything up making my entire life uncertain. Like you are only allowed to get clean if you are wealthy enough to afford it.

I don't blame my doctor he's a good guy just trying to cover his butt from the feds and the users who want to abuse the system it just sucks being caught in the middle everytime.

I can't survive without the medicine but I certainly can't affor it either and I don't know what I can do about it. It's like taking insulin away from a diabetic because he can't afford a test to prove he didn't eat an extra sugar cookie two weeks ago. Every time I start making headway someone comes along and yells 'you are a worthless addict, you can't forget that and there is an extra tax for that too!'

The irony? I pay 190 dollars a month for my medicine, roughly what it would cost for me to have insurance. Great stuff.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 11, 2017, 03:49:31 AM
So if you don't count buprenorphine I've been clean about ten years now.

A decade is great but at the same time there are underlying mental issues that I think the drugs are masking in an attempt to self medicate.

Sometimes I wonder if I was on anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medicine if I'd even need buprenorphine.

Just speculation but the one thing I really aim to work on this year is my anger.

I never get violent or lash out or anything but anytime I feel like people are taking advantage of me I obsess on it. My mind rolls with the flaws in the system and I lose sleep that night and obsess over it. There's nothing I can do to make the system better so whats the point of losing sleep and days over it?

It's just a negative obsession that doesn't help anyone. It's absolutely ok to be angry in these situations but at a certain point it becomes self destructive.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Eggbeater on March 11, 2017, 11:26:32 PM
Welcome, Atm142.  I'm Lillie and I'm an addict too.  I'm glad you're here.  I related to your story in that I am very familiar with chronic pain and doctor's offices.  I'm wondering if you have ever tried a Narcotics Anonymous meeting?  If you go the website you can find a local meeting in your area.  I've found lots of support in NA and I think you would find you're not alone.  It's easier to stay clean with the help of other recovering addicts than by yourself. NA helped me learn how to cope with life without any drugs and then I was able to get proper professional support for outside issues like suicidal thoughts.  I didn't really know what was really going on with me until I removed all drugs.  It wasn't easy, it was like waking up from a coma.  The world seemed bright and loud and scary and that is why I needed support from people who had been where I was so that I could relearn how to live clean.  People in NA had my back while i was going through it.

You are welcome to come into the chatroom and get to know us.  We have online meetings at 10pm EST every night.  They are not meant to replace local meetings but they are a nice supplement and you can get a feel for what a meeting is like.

Hugs to you!
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Lon on March 16, 2017, 03:13:32 AM
Welcome ATM..hugs. You are in the right place. I know a little about pain and addiction too. As an addict I know there is a reason for my desire to use (insert whatever drug name here) that goes beyond the physical effects of whatever drug...and simple abstinence...without that drug I dont know how to live...and soon don't want to.  "An addict alone in their own mind lives in a dangerous neighborhood."

NA helps us to find a way of life where we no longer have the need for dope to fill or numb that "empty spot inside" we all feel. Working the steps with a sponsor helps us find freedom...the choice is yours to make.

Hit some local NA meetings..stop into our chatroom.

Narcotics Anonymous' Tradition Three - "The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop using."
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 16, 2017, 04:02:26 AM

Yeah I go to meetings a few times a year, I always feel really out of place at them and I've tried several different groups. My doctor wants me to do some kind of therapy monthly even if it's just posting my thoughts on a website. I'd rather see a psychiatrist or therapist but I can't afford that. I'm happy you found a balance that works for you. I'm still getting my IRC client worked out and then I'll be joining the chats in the next couple of days.

That grayness you speak of, when food loses all taste, the world loses its luster, your hobbies don't excite you, even the people you love don't give you that feeling they used to. I know that feeling all too well but I only feel it when I go off the medicine I become numb and everything I found meaningful before loses all meaning. I simply exist.

I know its cliche so I hope you'll indulge me anyway, I don't get high I just try to feel normal.

I'm on a neverending quest to feel normal. I don't need to be permanently happy but I need to feel, well, feel anything besides that grayness.

What bothers me more than anything is that when I'm not on my medicine people can't depend on me, I become what is essentially a leech that needs to be taken care of and I lose all value as a human being.

I have an amazing fiancee who has maybe smoked pot twice, she's only ever known me on my medication. She fell in love with the guy on medicine and isn't a fan of the guy who isn't taking it, franky I'm not either.

The problem is the medicine is an absolute ball and chain. What if my doctor starts charging 1000 a month? What if he retires or just quits after getting sick of dealing with sketchy addicts and federal nonsense? What if something apocalyptic happens? lol , seems silly but I'd be totally useless to everyone around me.

Its just a rock and a hard place and I've decided to try and find a new balance.

I've tried pure abstinence, it's not an option in the short term until I can deal with the depression and anxiety that the buprenorphine masks.

Thank you Lillie, I appreciate the support.
- Joe
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 16, 2017, 05:05:41 AM

Hey Lon, thanks for the support.

I got my blue book right beside me. I've got no desire to use but I do desire to lead a normal life and be there for my family. It's been about ten years since I took anything that wasn't prescribed to me. I never really have that urge to use but I do get fed up with the darker thoughts that swirl in my head.

If I could live without the anxiety and depression without medication I'd do it in a heartbeat. If I can lead a normal life thanks to taking one pill a day I'd do that too. I have people who depend on me and I just want to be there for them.

I've been seeing my doctor for over five years and in the past I paid 5 bucks a UA plus 100 for the appointment and 10 bucks for the therapy. I guess the feds are hassling him though and now the UA's are costing 100-600 dollars a piece which is totally unaffordable to me.

So I'm going to talk to him and see if he'll just let me buy the 30 dollar ones from walgreens since I've never had a dirty UA. If he says no then I have a choice to make.

I can try to go completely clean for the 1000th time and hope this time doesn't end in relapse or suicide. I can try to find a more affordable doctor which will be next to impossible or I can risk everything and go back to street drugs.

Obviously the last option is simply not going to happen but I don't know I can't be worthless to my fiancee and month old daughter either.

I don't know what to do, just trying to take it one day at a time I guess but the anxiety about the ridiculous bills and meeting with my doctor is killing me.

I've rattled on long enough. Nice meeting you Lon, thanks for the kind words.

- Joe
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 16, 2017, 06:14:26 AM

Like I mentioned I wanted to work on my anger so I've been thinking about it a lot. What triggers it, where it comes from etc..

I think it all stems from a feeling that pervades my life and even ability to function and that emotion is guilt. I live my life in constant fear of hurting people because the guilt associated with it is too much. At the age of 32 I still don't drive because I'm terrified that I could kill someone.

I have a hard time with employment for the same reasons, this is all despite going to honors classes and at one point being fast tracked through school to earn my MD. Now thanks to my fear of guilt I can't even hold down a crappy job at Dillards.

Here's an example at Dillards. I had been working there for 6 months when I read in the news that a sweatshop in Bangladesh burnt down killing 600 people who were locked inside sewing cushion covers. The next day at work I read the "Made in" labels and sure enough 'Bangladesh.'

I realized that I was perpetuating this god awful system of exploitation and suffering. I tried to suck it up for the next few months but I couldn't sleep, as I laid in bed I'd think about those poor people burning alive in their factory so I could sell furniture and pillows at discount prices. On the rare occassion I did sleep I'd have nightmares I was in the factory itself.

I know that by me quitting won't change anything but at least I can sleep at night and know I was no longer directly contributing to anyone elses misery.

You'd think finding a job that didn't exploit people would be that hard but it is. You can't make a living without taking it from someone else.

WIthout medicine those feelings of guilt are ten times worse and absolutely self destructive. I still beat myself up because I was a bully in middle school to a kid. He and I are amicable friends now but that guilt never goes away. I could be zonked out watching a documentary and all of a sudden it hits me right in the face.

I don't know what to do about it honestly, but I can't keep feeling this way. I go out of my way not to hurt other people or exploit them in any way even if it means suffering myself and when other people exploit me it is a major trigger.

Anyway, I think that if I truly want to get a handle on my anger I'll have to handle my guilt first so that is my focus for now.

Guilt is absolutely a healthy emotion and something you should feel when you do something wrong or hurt someone but at a certain point it only serves to be self-destructive and I've got to figure out a way to cut it off.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Lon on March 24, 2017, 01:55:22 AM
ATM..hugs. I gotta point out something that isnt too obvious at first..and we all do it. You are trying to fix your broken brain with the same brain that thinks using was/is a great idea.

Step one; "We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and our lives had become unmanagable."

Meetings sponsor, steps with that sponsor.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on July 12, 2017, 01:39:24 PM
Sorry I haven't wrote in awhile my laptop crapped out so I'm posting from my very unhelpful phone. Still 'clean' still on drt. I wanted to share a very neat though very corny exercise I discovered while reading some psychology texts. I find it pretty useful in calming me down and helping me move on but again it's corny as heck. Maybe it can help someone else too.

When I'm feeling anxious or guilty and maybe a panic attack coming on I picture myself as a child sitting there trembling and I say all the things I wish someone would say to me. During this time I remind myself these minutes are dedicated to me being anxious and it is totally fine to feel this way but I remind myself that when the time passes I need to pick myself up and focus on something positive.

Pretty corny right? It also makes me think about what and how I talk to my daughter as she grows though.

 Anyway, my second dad just passed away from lung cancer so after I bury him on Friday I'm going to redouble my efforts on quitting nicotine. I realize now I use cigarettes as an outlet for my anxiety.

And sure, I am looking for ways to fix my brain but there is no permanent fix. I'm just looking for ways to make it through each and everyday without harming myself or anyone else and staying a contributing positive member of society.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on January 24, 2018, 01:52:47 PM
This January marks 11 years without a drug that's illegal or wasn't prescribed to me. Still on Suboxone I think that might be just a part of who I am from now on. Not sure how I feel about that but it's hard to imagine a normal life without it which is a scary though for a plethora of reasons.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on May 16, 2018, 01:23:06 PM
A couple weeks ago was the first time I woke up and forgot to the my medicine since I started it. It lasted until the afternoon and my daughter was keeping me busy as I drank copious amounts of coffee but I'm hoping it means something.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on June 13, 2018, 01:20:59 PM
Things are getting a little easier. It's easier to brush off things I have no control over. Thinking about having another child but sometimes it kills me I can't provide all the things my daughter deserves. As a kid some of my favorite memories though are when we didn't have much money. I'm sure it was hell for my parents but before the money came we just spent all of our time together having fun in the living room. After it was all about going out.

But hey if I can't afford to give my daughter the best tutors maybe I can try to be that tutor for her.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on July 11, 2018, 01:36:58 PM
Lost another breaker in my house. Gonna cost an arm and a leg to fix. Had a good fourth of July though with my family been a pretty quiet month otherwise.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on September 05, 2018, 01:28:16 PM
Made it another month of sobriety - honestly don't even remember the last time I drank alcohol let alone had a hard drug. I think I had a glass of wine at Easter six years ago. They are Catholic so I think it might have been rude to decline. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel tempted sometimes though. Luckily I don't have the temptation right in front of me anymore instead it will come from watching TV like breaking bad or something. Then I'll think about getting high and fantasize about having that kind of money and power again but I realize it's just fantasy and the truth was far uglier.

I have a family now too, a real one and I don't ever want them exposed to that part of my life. I met my fiancee after I had gotten sober so she's only ever known this part of me and she's never even smoked weed so sometimes I'm afraid if she ever saw that part of me she would run away and I wouldn't blame her but that IS a part of me so sometimes it feels like I'm living a lie.

It's just strange though how I used to struggle to keep my sobriety for just an hour, then it became days which is where I think I'm still at and might always be but those days became weeks months years and finally a decade. It all just kind of blended together though and kinda doesn't feel real. Like even though it's been so long and I can't remember the last time I actually used but it still feels like those days aren't that far behind me. I'm not as wealthy and there are days I feel like I wish I could give my family all the amazing things they deserve and temptation comes back.

But we are healthy happy and safe and which matters more and when I look back at all my favorite childhood memories they are never when they bought me a new toy but when I just got to spend time with my parents and time is something I have in abundance now as a sober adult and intend to give as much as possible of it to my daughter.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on October 01, 2018, 01:12:23 PM
Another month gone by. I got a pretty gnarly sore throat and my fever keeps spiking. This just started out of nowhere yesterday. My brother is going to need heart bypass surgery and keeps passing out from blood sugar levels. I don't really feel my sobriety threatened as much anymore but it is and probably always will be a daily struggle.

My mother in law wants me to try kratom. Thinking about it.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on November 28, 2018, 02:08:14 PM
Another month of sobriety. Thanksgiving and Halloween was fun for me and my daughter. I've had a pretty good couple of months. What's interesting though is I feel like I'm on the outside looking in these days on the addiction front. My brother once beat me up when I was in high school because he found out I was dealing weed. He went on to run a bank, adopt kids and get married. All the things I wanted in life while I just wanted to get high. On Thanksgiving he was sitting in jail for running from the cops with drugs and a gun in the car. I know it's genetic but holy smokes since my dad died and his wife left him he has had a mid life crisis like no other.

He was an anti drug guy quick to judge so it's weird how the tables have turned. I just want him to be happy but I never went down the road as deep as he has but I'm trying to be loving and forgiving but it's driving my mom crazy. He's been kicked out of numerous homes and programs, even had open heart surgery a couple months ago.

None of this makes sense I'm just worried about him I guess.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on January 23, 2019, 12:02:05 PM
Moving forward this year. Got my acceptance letter going back to school in the fall. Going to try and focus on finishing my schooling and self improvement this year. I haven't had any major urges or any kind of relapse in several years in fact this January marks year 11 of not hunting down street drugs or looking for trouble.

My autistic aunt got diagnosed with cancer and my mom is taking it pretty hard. I just want to step up and be that guy everyone can depend on.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on February 19, 2019, 12:33:30 PM
Made it another month. Had a water pipe burst it's been tough on the money. Mostly spent the month in doors. Getting excited about going back to school. Not sure what I'm going to be doing there. Just going to do a few classes and see if I can still do classwork at a reasonable level and if so go from there. If not just do something simple.

Most excited I've been about me and my families long term goals in a long time.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on March 18, 2019, 02:20:38 PM
It's been a rough few weeks but we're plugging along and I made it another month of sobriety. My aunt had cancer and had surgery to remove it but she's been bed ridden ever since and she's also severely autistic, about 6 years old in her head in a 50 year old 200lb woman's body.

My mom and aunt are taking care of the other aunt but my mom has cried to me every day on the phone because she's a small woman and it's hard to lift her to the bathroom and give her shots because she'll physically fight you off. My mom is covered in bruises.

I'm going to go stay with them for awhile to give my mom a break and for whatever reason my disabled aunt likes and respects me so does whatever I ask to prove she can.

I've also given my brother my car for a few weeks so mom doesn't have to drive him to take UA's at 7am or meet his parole officer.

So transportation is difficult and I'm perpetually exhausted also chasing around my 2 year old but it will all be worth it. In service to others is when I feel most fulfilled and I just don't want my mom to spend these years so full of anxiety and pain.

It's strange but I think it's easier managing my own addiction when I'm helping people manage their problems.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on May 14, 2019, 12:26:46 PM
Another couple of months clean.  Sometimes when I look back I can hardly believe the person I was compared to the person I am today. Not sure if that's good or bad. I was always so wrapped up in school, jobs and drugs I never really got to enjoy the people I'm closest to. These days since my dad died and I stopped using I make it a point to savor every moment with my family. I don't know what else to say this month really.

Gearing up for some major summer home renovation projects so that's where my mind is mostly. Still having monster headaches but they seem to be coming fewer and further between.

Take care everyone and good luck with your sobriety and I hope you realize you're worth it.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on June 11, 2019, 03:19:17 PM
My fiancee recently lost her job for doing the right thing and it's unbelievable how powerless you can feel and how easy it is for some guy you've never even met to suddenly throw your entire life into confusion and take food off of your table.

A shoplifter darted from her store and a customer trying to be a good Samaritan went after him. There's a strict no leaving the store policy (apparently) because my fiancee took two steps out the front door while on the phone with 911 to check on the customer.

She wanted the customer to come back in and not risk her safety over a pair of shoes and those two steps is all it took to get an employee of six years with zero write-ups who's never been fired before terminated.

All she was doing was making sure the customer was safe and it cost her, her job. Doing the right thing and being gainfully employed should not be mutually exclusive.

She's a saint and my rock and it is terrible there is so little I can do for her.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on July 09, 2019, 03:17:25 PM
Still trying to get a decent job that can keep us afloat. Thankfully we had been saving up money to take our daughter to the zoo on our first ever vacation in a decade. Now that money's keeping us afloat.

We have had a couple of interviews but I recently helped my mom move and badly irritated my hernia. If I pick my daughter up wrong it feels like my liver explodes. It does seem to have gotten better in the last few days so maybe I can tough it out a bit longer.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on August 06, 2019, 02:00:12 PM
Brother had MRSA. That was crazy, he had a huge chunk of his bicep cut off and had to pack it with gauze. He seems to be doing better though.

Excited for the new basketball season.

Going back to school soon but I realize I don't even have the money for books. It seems like success in this life is like a rollercoaster ride but outfront every sign reads "must be this wealthy to ride."

Trying to be less negative but it's hard when you see your family, neighbors - everyone you've ever cared about being ground to dust by the same broken system. Then you realize it's going to be your fate too. Then for an extra dose of existential dread realize it's probably the same fate for your child too.

That's when I feel the urge to numb my feelings. So I can just have one good day before going back to the regularly scheduled program of crap. Still haven't though, coming up on eleven years in January.

Just exhausted.

Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on September 03, 2019, 04:48:34 PM
Another month. It's the small things. A smile, a hug, a call. Every little bit makes things a bit easier.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on October 02, 2019, 04:25:27 PM
Trying to stop feeling guilty for everything. It's hard. Having trouble breathing when I'm laying down. Cut back on smoking will hopefully quit soon but honestly it's been how I manage my anxiety about feeling guilty for so long it's going to be rough.

For instance I don't drive because if I hurt someone while driving I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt. On the flip side I feel guilty for having to ask people for rides. It's kind of created this endless cycle I'm trying to break.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on October 21, 2019, 08:08:48 PM
Doing some writing, when I'm motivated it's a hobby that keeps me moving. While writing though I reminisced about my earliest memories.

First was getting a spanking, big deal lots of kids got that.

Second memory was my dad beating my sixteen year old brother into a bloody pulp while my mom looked on and cried. I just remember his nose looking like mush and his eyes shut while blood streamed down his face. Then my dad rammed his head into the refrigerator so hard all of the magnets flew off. I wouldn't see my brother for another six years.

Third I was playing in my yard when a sweaty bloody neighbor jumped from the bushes. Pretending to be playing a game with me he wrapped his arms around my neck and used me as a shield as sirens blared from everywhere in the neighborhood. He dragged me through the yard looking down every street. After about five minutes that felt like an hour the cops didn't show. He patted me on the head for being a good hostage and disappeared. I never saw him again.

Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on October 22, 2019, 12:24:36 AM
And then tonight that same brother attempted suicide after an argument with my mother. My mother is very sweet most of the time but is also incredibly negative, pessimistic and judgmental. I think she suffers from depression and severe anxiety. Having watched my oldest brother be beaten so many times she feels guilty for not doing more to protect him so will often stick her neck out for him.

Then after sticking her neck out if she feels slighted in the least she'll lash out pretty extraordinarily. Though never physically like dad, just verbal. Then she'll make her rounds to family members and try to gain sympathy by telling everyone what a piece of crap you are. Almost everyone has wisened up to her game by now but it was very difficult as a child. You always felt alone like everyone hated you.

One time she found out I was smoking weed so she decided to organize her version of an "intervention." She ambushed me with my other family members, my oldest brother beat the crap out of me while I laid motionless and everyone watched. Then afterward one by one they all told me what a piece of shit I was for smoking pot.

Every. Single. One. Of them including my mother had smoked weed when they were younger. Needless to say it didn't take me long to graduate to the harder stuff after that.

I love my mom but she needs to be alone for awhile, that relationship has obviously gone toxic.

I bring that up and the story about being a hostage before because I've just always felt like a hostage. Drugs were a way to finally feel free even if it was only temporary. Soon though the drugs themselves began to hold me hostage.

I just want to live a life where I don't feel trapped and I don't hurt people. It's nearly impossible these days. You can't buy a t shirt that wasn't made in a sweatshop, a tomato that wasn't grown with damaging pesticides, a  job that isn't predatory or a medicine that isn't funding a gouging economy.

Life has become so complicated it weighs you down. It tries to crush you and you're utterly powerless to fight back because society has placed so many responsibilities on your shoulders and anyone who deviates from the social pressure to conform is labelled a problem.

I guess I'll always be a problem and that makes for a very hard life. I'm damned either way.
Title: Re: New member frustrated venting.
Post by: Atm142 on November 26, 2019, 03:43:14 PM
I hurt my knee pretty bad a few weeks ago not sure what happened. I'd been jogging for a couple months by then and if I had to guess I'd say that had something to do with it. I guess that's what I get for trying to exercise and be healthy and all that junk.

Starting a neighborhood watch program too after someone tried to burglarize me. Really getting to know my neighbors which is nice. It's not the best neighborhood by a long shot but they are all salt of the earth people just trying to get by like everyone else. I'd go jog two or three times a day and at the same time patrol the neighborhood so my jogs were usually in the really late hours.

What was cool though was one of the neighbors I helped out there noticed I hadn't been out and came by to check on me. When he found out my knee was in bad shape he brought a bunch of easy to cook food over for me and my little girl.

I thought it was really amazing that he not only brought me some food on his income but actually NOTICED I wasn't out there anymore. It was spooky out there at first late by yourself with nothing but a headlamp and a cell phone. You also felt weird because neighbors would poke their head out the windows like, 'Who the hell is that weirdo?'

I always just waved though and if they seemed amenable enough I'd strike up a conversation and let them know who I was and what I was doing. Now I got six other guys helping because they've had stuff stolen or whatever and was sick of it too. It's kind of like taking back our neighborhood and turning it into a community. Pretty rewarding.